Awareness

The first step in your healing journey (whatever it may look like) is recognizing and acknowledging the pain, trauma and emotional distress in your life, instead of suppressing it or remaining in a space of denial. This involves becoming aware of your coping mechanisms and intricately looking at how past experiences have shaped your present behaviours and emotional state.

Sometimes this process can feel like you are viewing your present and past through a whole different lens- the veil feels like it is coming off. It is painful, especially to look at situations where those close to you who have hurt you, but on the other side of the pain is freedom.

Acceptance

Accepting (which can be a process- be patient and gentle with yourself) the reality of the pain or trauma without judgment is crucial. This means not blaming yourself or others but understanding that these experiences are part of one's history. Keeping a journal can be incredibly beneficial as part of the journey.

Connection

Healing often requires reconnecting with your true self- the part of you buried beneath layers of pain and protective behaviors mistaken for personality. True connection also involves seeking the right support: therapists, groups, or trusted loved ones who foster safety and growth.

Sometimes, healing must happen without closure from those who hurt us. But if safe and possible, restorative conversations (like with parents) can become a powerful part of your healing journey.

Explore the options under the 'Trauma-Informed Modalities' tab and choose the healing approach that resonates most with you. Remember, the true foundation of healing lies in regulating your nervous system, addressing core childhood wounds, and learning to live as an embodied, present being. More than one modality may support you along the way- healing is a journey, and each story is beautifully unique.

Curiosity & Compassion (re-parenting yourself)

Healing starts when you meet yourself with curiosity instead of criticism. Become curious about the parts of you that struggle, and listen to how your body speaks through symptoms instead of judging it. Ask: Where do the same patterns repeat? What needs to shift for true change? Self-compassion is key — as you heal, you’ll also grow the capacity to offer empathy to others, even those who once hurt you.